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The Plan

August 27, 2012

I am a little slow in posting this, but after 11 years at the Janesville Gazette, Kyle started a new job 2 weeks ago.  He’s now managing editor of and is commuting to Madison.  I’m proud of him and it’s nice to have him home on a normal schedule instead of leaving at 3am like he used to.

This new job has given us an opportunity we’ve been looking for for a long time.  We’re going to try to sell our house and move to Madison.  There are lots of reasons why moving to Madison is attractive to us, not the least of which is the increased diversity from where we live now.  I have conflicting emotions about moving.  I never felt very connected to our community until Tea started school, but now I’m finally starting to make some good friends in the neighborhood.  It will be sad to leave them (and my great neighbors) and I hope we can stay in touch.

It’s also possible that we won’t be going anywhere anytime soon.  We’ll try to have the house on the market in the next couple of weeks, but if we can’t get the right price for it, there’s no way we can afford to move.  Real estate in Madison is much more expensive than in our county, but it’s a trade-off we’re willing to make if we can.  If the house doesn’t sell at the price we need, we’ll wait until we’ve saved enough money to make the move.  So our plan is to get to Madison eventually; we just don’t know exactly how soon that will be.  Luckily, the distance is commutable for Kyle in the meantime.

Trying to get the house ready to sell and also give any attention at all to the boys is proving difficult.   They are stressed.  I am stressed.   I am going to miss my sassy little guy once he’s in school all day, but knowing that isn’t making his attitude any easier to take while I take pictures off the walls and wash ceiling fan blades.

The boys are excellent help at packing. No wait, that is a lie.

So I decided to take this next week off from house prep and declare it HAPPY FANTASTIC LAST WEEK OF VACATION SPECTACULAR!  Every day will involve something crazy or fun.  Amusement Parks!  Zoos!  Cousins!  Swimming!  Ice Cream for Breakfast!  Bedtime with Hats On!  Checking Out 4,563 Books About Fire Trucks From The Library (normal limit:3 for my sanitiy)!  We will burst with excitement and sugar and get all riled up and then let the teacher sort it out next week.  It’s probably not a *good* plan, but at least it’s a plan.  The weeds in the driveway can wait – we all need a distraction right now.  Tea said it best: “I’m happy and I’m sad about moving, Mama.”
4 Comments leave one →
  1. August 27, 2012 8:00 am

    We’re looking forward to joining you for today’s craziness. See you at noon!

  2. Erika Leaf permalink
    August 27, 2012 9:14 am

    Robin, Be aware that moving may stir up feelings in the boys related to their adoption moves. When we switched Ben’s school last year, he was having a lot of difficult behaviors and only when we stepped back from it and realized how much of the situation could be experienced as an overlap to the experience of being adopted, did we realize what was likely the root of his difficulties. Since he was adopted before he could talk, the pre-cognitive age, he could not identify anything verbally to us. But once we switched our responses from annoyance/anger about the present disruptions to nurturance with his past disruptions in mind, it got a lot easier.

    • August 27, 2012 10:35 am

      Thank you for your wise words, Erika. The parallels between leaving their homes then and now are not lost on us and we’re trying to be sensitive to their feelings. We’ve had lots of heart to hearts and marathon snuggles in the last month. (Including comforting a major meltdown in the middle of writing this comment.) The situation is difficult for *me*, and I’m the adult in control, who made the decision. I cannot imagine how difficult it is for the kids, especially Tea who always feels things very deeply. I’m hoping that refocusing my energy on the boys this week will help. Tea starts school next week so I can get work done while he’s gone during the day and give him the attention he’s needing when he gets home.

  3. Nancy permalink
    August 27, 2012 10:25 pm

    Robin – enjoy your week! I’m feeling the “last week blues” & rush to do those last few outings myself. Hope to do Lake Ripley, as we have not been there since July 4th!!!!!! July & first half of August whizzed by. Remember if you need an escape, give a call!

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